I stumbled across this:
I just wanted to post, as the other woman, an update. I want you to know that your loving man, at least the one I was with, is free to be just yours again. I have stepped away, figured out that I am worth more than he will ever be able to give me.
I was tired, after a very brief affair, of playing second fiddle to a woman that did not show him the love he deserved (so I thought at the time). Now I know she/you were showing exactly the love he deserved.
You deserve more, but he is what you want, you had him first, so have a party, you win him 100%. Enjoy him, know that he will most likely find another "me" out there, but this time it won't be ME.
I never felt like a relationship wrecker. That fell squarely on your dear heart's shoulders as far as I am concerned. He is the one that risked it all for an affair with me. I did nothing to jeopardize the relationship between him and you. I never asked him to leave you, I never told you what was going on, knowing it would only hurt you and serve no one.
Other women are women too, we hurt like you do, we wanted a chance at a love so deep we could not imagine our life without it. Willing to risk hurting so much we cry every night for not having him, for being so stupid as to want someone we knew we could never have completely.
I am sorry I borrowed your man for a few brief moments at love. But I am not sorry for feeling the love I did. No one should ever apologize for feeling the pure kind of love I did.
It's a good one to read as it gives a sense of how it feels to sit on the other side of the table.
Don't hate, cause it's not entirely her to blame and sometimes, just sometimes, it's wrong to think that you're the only one who's in pain.
To my dear friend: Be strong!
